Good morning world,
Today I speak with conviction, not just as a woman, but as a voice standing for the dignity, protection, and restoration of women in the Democratic Republic of Congo and across the world.
There is a truth many are uncomfortable confronting: we are dealing with a deep, generational brokenness that has affected how women are seen, valued, and treated. This is not just about isolated incidents, it is about a mindset that has gone unchallenged for too long.
At the root of this issue is something we do not speak about enough: people who are not whole are shaping societies.
Let me explain what I mean by being whole.
Being whole is not about perfection, it is about alignment. It is when your physical, mental, and spiritual realities are functioning together, not against each other.
• Your physical reality is your actions, what you do, how you treat people, how you show up in the world. Many people look “put together” on the outside, yet their actions reveal violence, lack of control, and absence of discipline.
• Your mental reality is your thoughts, your emotional intelligence, your ability to regulate anger, process pain, and make sound decisions. This is where many are broken. When a man cannot regulate his emotions, he becomes dangerous to himself and to others. A lack of emotional maturity is not a small issue; it is the foundation of abuse.
• Your spiritual reality is your conscience, your moral compass, your understanding of right and wrong. It is what governs you when no one is watching. When this is corrupted or ignored, a person can justify evil and still feel entitled.
Now here is the danger:
When these three realities are not aligned, a person becomes divided within themselves and a divided person will always create destruction around them.
You cannot act violently (physical), think irrationally (mental), and claim to be morally or spiritually sound (spiritual). That is not wholeness, that is contradiction.
Many of the issues we are seeing today, especially violence against women are the result of individuals who have never been taught to bring these three realities into alignment.
This is why I say: we must stop focusing only on behavior and start addressing the root; inner development.
I have spent over 30 years working on myself, starting at the age of 15. People need to know that becoming whole is a lifelong process. Some begin at 40, some at 50 and while growth is always possible, the later we start, the more damage may already have been done.
This is why how we raise our boys matters.
If we do not teach them emotional regulation, accountability, and respect, we will continue to see grown men who are physically mature but mentally and spiritually underdeveloped and women continue to pay the price for that failure.
To the leadership in the DRC President Félix Antoine Tshisekedi: Justice must be real, not selective. Any man who abuses a woman, especially under the authority of a profession meant to protect and heal, must be held accountable. Licenses must be revoked. Survivors must receive therapy, protection, and dignity.
What happened to this woman is not just unacceptable, it is inhumane.
Let us be clear: A woman who has just given birth should NEVER be:
• Filmed while naked
• Beaten while receiving medical care
This is not culture. This is abuse. This is evil and it must stop—not just in the DRC, but everywhere in the world.
I am a woman many admire, but also a woman some wish would be silent. That will never happen. My voice was not given to me to be quiet, it was given to confront, to heal, and to bring truth where there is denial.
We must protect our girls.
We must raise our boys differently.
We must build whole human beings.
Because until we do, broken people will continue to build broken systems.
Look at how the whole world just died silent about the Epstein files. I refuse to be silent in a world where women are still paying the price for that brokenness.
Signed,
Niina Nia Kabesa
🇨🇩 future President.
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